"Getting or giving anything is about social skills. The world is about being comfortable where you are and making people feel comfortable, and that’s what social skills are.
"What’s important is to be kind, and be gracious and do it in ways that make people want to do that for someone else." ~ Penelope Trunk, founder of BrazenCareerist.com. Her blog is blog.penelopetrunk.com.
I read this on page 75 of Seth Godin's new ebook, What Really Matters. There's even more wisdom in these words of Penelope Trunk when you realize she's got Asperger's Syndrome, a brain disorder. Penelope Trunk says she's had to learn to mimic socially appropriate responses because it's not a natural skill for her. Her brain doesn't pick up on things like that.
If she can do this to the point of being sought out for her job hiring and interviewing skills, then you and I can learn to be more appropriate on Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn, no?
Social skills are learned and accessible to all. Some of us picked them up from parents and family.
Others, like myself, have struggled a lifetime never feeling comfortable in social situations. I'm either under-the-radar shy, or over the top and in-your-face, there never seems to be any grace. At least, that's the view from my inside head. What appears to the outside world is often another story. It's why I prefer to write than speak any day.
How you appear in real life is how you're going to show up on your blogs and social media sites, eventually. So it's important to mind your social skills when blogging, tweeting and updating your status.
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This really spoke to me. I thought that nobody else had the same issues with being either under-the-radar shy or over-the-top. I've struggled to get over my shyness and dislike of public speaking (I, too, would rather write), and I've been fairly successful at that, but sometimes I say something and then wonder where it came from! I definitely think social skills can be learned, and we can all continue to improve. Thanks for sharing this.
Posted by: Gail Kent | December 18, 2009 at 09:45 AM
Social skills are learned and accessible to all. Some of us picked them up from parents and family.very good service provided.
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Posted by: michael.gentry | December 18, 2009 at 01:32 PM
Thanks, michael and Gail, for stopping by and commenting. I think there are many people who often feel shy and are reluctant to speak up, even on the Web where it can seem relatively anonymous. So it means a lot to me to know I've struck a chord... catch ya later.
Posted by: Patsi Krakoff | December 26, 2009 at 11:51 AM